QUESTION:

I'm having a problem with a co-worker. She's a huge backstabber and everyone knows it. I heard her telling my boss that she had written something when I had. What should I do?

ANSWER:

The work world is filled with some really horrible people. There are bullies, misfits, passive aggressive, backstabbers, "know-it-alls", gossipers, etc. Unfortunately,the number of bad people often outnumber the good. In bad economic times, it seems that more people are acting out with bad behaviors. It might be due to stress or just the tothe simple fact that not everyone is good. Try to make as many allies as possible both above you on the organization ladder and below. Bullies and backstabbers often attack those they think don't have  support or allies. Some people try to take the backstabbers on directly. Others go to their boss or lay a trap. To avoid others taking credit for your work, you might send a follow-up email saying you were pleased they liked your initial ideas and then maybe expound on them.  You can write the backstabber and theboss. Generally when writing an email - list the most senior person first and then the more junior person. Or, if you want to be more egalitarian, alphabetize by last name. In this case, I would list the boss first. Don't be defensive and never let them see you sweat. Just be matter-of-fact and try to avoid sounding too weak or too witchy. The backstabber will be aware you are on to her and may seek another potential victim. If she stays focused on you, you can talk to her directly or get someone  you really trust to tell her to lay off. I know it isn't easy dealing with this sort of behavior. As we gain more experience, we learn to deal with these tough situations. It isn't fun and it makes one dread going to work.  Let me know if you want to schedule a time to talk with me. Good luck.