Question:
I recently graduated GSPM, and I make more money than my boyfriend. I am not really comfortable with that. What would you advise?
Answer:
First of all, I’m glad to learn that the GSPM “worked” for you. Yours is a big question, and it is hard for me to address it since I don’t know you and your boyfriend. Honestly, I am sad to learn that here we are in the 21st century and some folks are still worried about the man making more than the woman.
If it is a big deal for you -- maybe you could help your boyfriend select some classes or to develop some skills so that he could have the opportunity to grow in whatever field he is in. (You didn’t mention that so it’s hard for me to speculate). Or, you can work on your beliefs and attitudes and adjust your thinking. Many women make more than men these days. Prince Charming is a myth. Sit down and try to figure out why this is such an issue for you. Maybe your BF has some other great ways of contributing --- after all --- everything isn’t about dollars and cents. He might be a great “fix-it” kind of guy; maybe he’s great with kids; maybe he makes a really mean roast. Who knows? If none of these suggestions sound good to you – you might just have to face the fact that you’re not flexible on this issue and that this man isn’t for you. If he’s great in so many other ways – he might be a keeper. The winds have a strange way of changing – there’s no telling whether he might be making more than you tomorrow. Food for thought. Don’t give up on a great relationship too easily. Good luck with whatever you decide.